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Sunday, March 27, 2011

Sunday Stealing 3/27/11

It's pretty cut and dry today, people. There are questions. I answered them. I'm off to catch up on blog reading....


26. Who has done something today to show they care about you? Od brought me cocoa in bed and made me breakfast. I think that counts. ;) 

27. Do you have a lot to learn? Yes. A lot I need to learn, and a lot that I want to learn.

28. If you could learn how to do three things just by wishing and not by working what would they be? reading and playing music, speak Spanish, become fully computer savvy

29. Which do you remember the longest: what other people say, what other people do or how other people make you feel? definitely how others make you feel

30. What are the key ingredients to having a good relationship? honesty, generosity, and fun

31. What 3 things do you want to do before you die? travel to every location on my wishlist, complete my home improvement to-do list, and find inner peace.

32. What three things would you want to die to avoid doing? awful question, because death is THE thing I try to avoid. The one thing that comes to mind is avoiding being the cause of someone elses death. Not sure I could live with that.

33. Is there a cause you believe in more than any other cause? animal rights

34. What does each decade make you think of: 70s : brown, orange, and yellow and bad hair 80's : MTV 90's: baggy jeans cinched tight w/a belt and clunky shoes 2000s: Y2K scare 2010s: how much I dislike it when people say "twenty ten".

35. Which decade do you feel the most special connection to and why? the 80's. that's when I did most of my growing up.

36. What is your favorite oldie/classic rock song? music in general is a big love for me so I can't pick favorites, but but I wouldn't change the station if it played anything by Bob Seger, Bad Company, The Steve Miller Band, or Van Morrison.

37. What country do you live in and who is the leader of that country? USA, Obama

If you could say any sentence to the current leader of your country what would it be? I wouldn't be inclined to say anything at all.

38. What's your favorite TV channel to watch in the middle of the night? TBS

39. What Disney villain are you the most like and why? the witch that turns the prince into a beast from Beauty and the Beast, because you get one chance to prove to me that you're a good person and if you fail it can take a long time to redeem yourself.

40. Have you ever been a girl scout/boy scout? no

41. If you were traveling to another continent would you rather fly or take a boat? fly

42. Why is the sky blue during the day and black at night? I know the blue color has something to do with wavelengths and Earth's atmosphere.....and the night blackness is merely shade. I think? My 9th grade science teacher would be so disappointed in me.

43. What does your name mean? princess

44. Would you rather explore the deeps of the ocean or outer space? ocean

45. Word association

What is the first word that comes to mind when you see the word:

Air: cloud
Meat: ball
Different: strokes
Pink: petals
Deserve: right
White: egg
Elvis: Presley
Magic: mirror
Heart: strings
Clash: of the Titans
Pulp: Fiction

46. If you could meet any person in the world who is dead who would you want it to be? Queen Elizabeth (the first)

47. What if you could meet anyone who is alive? Sam Elliot (I just wanna hear him talk)

48. Is there a movie that you love so much you could watch it everyday? no. variety is vital to me.

49. You are going to be stuck alone in an elevator for a week. What do you bring to do? if there's 3G service I bring my iPhone. If not, I bring my Sony Reader and an iPod.

50. Have you ever saved someone's life or had your life saved? no.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

I'll be thinking of you when...

...I'm visiting the land that doesn't believe in 3G service. Seriously. The place I stay doesn't even have internet. I get about 1 bar on my phone if I'm lucky when we go into town for dinner each night, but that's all. *sob*




I will miss reading your blog.
I will miss writing.
I will miss getting your comments.
I will miss porn.
*sigh*

I even tried to get an early morning Tumblr fix, but Tumblr is being a dick right now.

I'm not admitting anything......but when I packed, my LELO may or may not have accidentally fallen into my bag. (along with the charger)  :D

See y'all next week.

Monday, March 21, 2011

My husband has no shame

There's all sorts of fetishes and kinks and alternative sexual practices.
I'm currently at a loss to describe what my husband's deal is.
Here are the facts :

  • he loves my tits
  • especially my nipples
  • he likes them adorned in any way possible
  • he'd prefer me braless at all times
  • he likes people to see them
He used to encourage me to go braless in public in a fun, teasing way. Well, now that we've delved deeper into our fantasies and kinky wishlists I now realize he's very serious about it. I've even indulged him a few times when he's had special requests.

So what would you call that? Secondhand exhibitionism? A very very mild case of hotwife-ing? I don't know. I don't need it to be defined - just curious if anybody else has an idea.

I thought I was being rhetorical when I captioned this photo. Just for fun I left my newest artwork in his top dresser drawer as a surprise. He loved it, and I asked him (teasingly) if he would hang it up in his office. I won't say that I shouldn't have asked him, but I really should have known better. The man has no shame. His reply was "Yes, I'll hang it up in the office." Usually when he says he'll do something.......uh, it doesn't happen. Imagine my surprise on Friday when I received texted photo proof that my artwork is indeed hanging on his office wall right above our daughter's preschool-era contribution that he's moved from office to office over the period of the last 11 years. He said in the text : "Both of my girls like painting with green. :)"
It was actually very sweet and made my heart all gooey. I have to admit that our combined pieces did make a nice little complimentary collection! (can't show you the pic, her name is written right on it and very big like all preschoolers tend to do)

He got a nice kick out of displaying S & T and loved the reactions from his co-workers that noticed. He eventually took it down due to outsiders having a walk-through that day. Reactions?

  • looks went from squinting to see what it was to grins and smiles when they figured it out
  • "she's a keeper!"
  • "I never get anything like that."
  • someone had the nerve to ask about the story behind the artist's signature ,which he told
  • another requested to take a picture, which he declined
I don't go into the office often, but now I'll be on the lookout for curious or amused glances!

I think I should expand this series and perhaps the next subject matter will be balls. Using blue paint, of course! ;)

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Another day, another meme...

1. Who are you? Freya, Goddess of Love and War (but really just a sassy, kinky woman who always speaks her mind and strives for love, acceptance, and happiness)

2. What are the 3 most important things everyone should know about you? I don't play social games. Don't fuck with people I care about. Making the effort to know the real me is worthwhile because I'm much softer and sweeter than most people might think.

3. When you aren't memes like this one what are you doing? currently in the process of gettng my house in order so I can run away from home for a few days this week with friends.

4. List your classes in school from the ones you like the most to the ones you like the least (or if you are out of school, think of the classes you did like and didn't like at the time). french, english, art, speech and drama, typing, geometry, phys ed, home ec, biology, chemistry, health, history, algebra 1, algebra 2, pre calculus, government. (the only ones I truly disliked were pre calc and government)

5. What is your biggest goal for this year? to complete some remodelling on our house

6. Where do you want to be in 5 years? I'd love to be in a new house with both kids attending or completing college.

7. What stage of life are you in right now? Too young to be middle-aged, a little too old to be "young" ; parent of teenagers

8. Are you more child-like or childish? This one stumped me. I can't decide. Probably childish. My temper can get the better of me sometimes, but also childish because I like to play. People should never give up playing and having fun. I've never seen the official "grown up" rules that state we should be boring and no fun.

9. What is the last thing you said out loud? had a "discussion" with kiddos about unauthorized purchases on itunes

10. What song comes closest to how you feel about your life right now? Too many aspect to my life, too many songs. tough question.

11. Have you ever taken martial arts classes? no, but I've watched a lot of them. kiddo is a 2nd degree black belt in karate.

12. Does your life tend to get better or worse or does it just stay the same? rollercoaster. it got really bad, then got better and keeps on getting better. I hope I'm better prepared for the next dip.

13. Does time really heal all wounds? not all of them, but it certainly helps the scars fade a bit.

14. How do you handle a rainy day? If it's raining when I wake up then I smile, snuggle down into the covers and just listen. I could spend all day curled up in bed on a rainy day.....as long as I had good company. If it's a thunderstorm at bedtime then I sleep like the dead. I love storms - with the windows cracked.

15. Which is worse...losing your luggage or having to sort out tangled holiday lights? holiday lights - no argument. I don't do untangling. that requires patience. I get frustrated if it takes me longer than 10 seconds to untangle my earbuds. I could care less if my luggage is lost. things aren't that important and can be replaced. no need to stress.

16. How is (or was) your relationship with your parents? I lucked out in the parents department. My childhood was fun and happy. They made the best of everything. They set good examples, even when being human and making mistakes or having hard times. I love them. Period.

17. Do you tend to be aware of what is going on around you? Always. I sometimes wish there was an unaware button I could push. I tend to notice everything.

18. What is the truest thing that you know? Do the right thing and you'll never regret it.

19. What did you want to be when you grew up? *looks sheepishly away* an exotic dancer. I liked the costumes and thought they were sexy. (I was most likely influenced by burlesque rather than strippers, but you know.......a pole is a pole)

20. Have you ever been given a second chance? sure. probably 3rd, 4th, 5th.........I was a teenager and my mom let me live. there's enough proof right there!

21. Are you more of a giver or a taker? I give as good as I get.

22. Do you make your decisions with an open heart/mind? I typically go with my instincts, then use my heart/mind as a second opinion. they usually concur.

23. What is the most physically painful thing that has ever happened to you? I was badly burned as a child but don't remember it, childbirth was intense (no pain meds) but over quickly.......I think the pain after having my tonsils removed was the worst because it lasted for days. I refused the codeine because I hated feeling drugged. Oh- nevermind. I just remembered when my back went out 6 years ago. I was on the floor for days, in miserable and helpless pain. Thank god for pills then. I didn't mind being drugged that time.

24. What is the most emotionally painful thing that has ever happened to you? because it went on for so long and got worse every day I think the decline of my marriage has had the most impact.

25. Who have you hugged today? Od and one kiddo

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Strange Men

Apparently I have no qualms about strange men touching me in my bedroom.

I went to bed very late last night. Around 4 a.m. I try hard to maintain "normal" hours, but I slide into my old habits on the weekends. The internet is my usual distraction if I'm not creating. So.........I've discovered tumblrs awhile back. 1 or 2 or 3 maybe. But recently I've found some that just hit all my triggers. And I'm fucking hooked. So last night I went to bed horny as hell, but because I'm nice I didn't wake up my husband. He only had 1 and a half more hours to sleep before his alarm went off.

I don't remember dreaming, and I vaguely remember our morning session (it's nice to have a dedicated partner) but I do remember him checking on me mid-morning. He entered the bedroom, slid his hand under the warm covers and began to rub my ass. According to him (recounting the event later to me) I responded with hums of appreciation and a big grin on my face while not bothering to open my eyes and when he said to me "you didn't even open your eyes to make sure it wasn't a strange man fondling you"  I smiled again and gave a  "eh" sound with a sleepy shrug and pushed my ass into his hands to urge him to continue rubbing the tush.

"You don't really care, do you?" he chuckled.

"Un uh" was my too-warm-and-happy-to-care reply.

His comment activated a stream of my favorite images from the night before to roll through my head, and for a few brief seconds each one had their turn being the man with his hands under the covers. I fell back to sleep easily and hours later questioned Od about his "strange man comment".

As he told me, a very knowing and pleased smirk crossed his lips.
He knows I'm a dirty girl underneath it all.
And he loves it.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Bear with me...

...but I'm having a proud mom moment. This is where Twitter would come in handy if I were to venture there, but I haven't so you get to listen to me babble.

Anyway - my son participated in a regional BPA competition in the IT category and placed 2nd and made it to state (which is where he is now) and he just texted me to say he gets to go to DC to compete at the national level.

To say I'm proud is an understatement. As a parent to not one, but TWO teenagers, I live for moments like this - where I get to smile instead of bite my tongue and practice my breathing. And to top it off, I'm pretty sure I can talk Od into making it a family trip. It's been waaaaay too long since we've had one.

So that's all for me. I'm sure we'll be celebrating tonight. Have a good weekend everyone!!!  :)

Thursday, March 17, 2011

HNT 3/17 Going Green

Happy St. Patrick's Day!!! Truth be told, I'm not really sure if I'm Irish. I suspect it, but you could consider me more of an American mutt. My ancestry was supposedly traced back to Spanish heritage, but judging from all the fair skin and blue eyes in my family tree I highly doubt it. I'd believe German or Irish first. And my maiden name doesn't lend any clues either. I've always been envious of people who could say "Yeah, I'm Italian" or whatever.

I remember in 2nd grade we had to do a family tree and ask our parents to help us. The goal was to trace our family back as far as we could. My parents were as clueless as me so being frustrated with the whole project I made stuff up. I put down Africa. My teacher never said a word. She put all our charts on the wall for Open House. My dad got a big kick out of that and I was busted for my laziness!

So.........no matter where I came from, today I'm pretending I'm Irish - if for no other reason than I love all things green. I even had a little creative surge this morning just to prove it. So no pinching, okay? I'm sure that I'm still wearing some green. That stuff got everywhere. ;)

Think Od would hang it in his office if I framed it?


Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Monday, March 7, 2011

The first time

Do you remember your first time?

Lola over at Sex Babble  has been running a fun series called Monday Memories, and today is the Big First. Losing your V card. Being deflowered. Popping your cherry. All of these euphemisms are pretty stupid for something that should be (or is expected to be) a monumental event. Was yours monumental? Mine wasn't. Memorable, yes. I even remember the exact date. And what I wore. Well, what I was wearing before it all came off!

I was 15 and my boyfriend (who shared so many of my firsts) was 2 days away from turning 16. I'm sure we'd been toying with the idea for a few months. More like he'd been trying to convince me. He kept saying "just think about it" and I did. Eventually I gave in because I had no real reason for saying no. I was never pressured as a girl to save myself for marriage and I clearly remember having that debate with myself. Did I want to wait until marriage? Would I feel like a sinner if I had premarital sex? Would I regret my actions? No, no, and no. I never did ask myself another important question : was I ready? Thinking back, no I wasn't ready. I wasn't dying to lose my virginity. Barely more than curious. But doing it with my boyfriend who'd been a part of my life, first as a friend, then as much more was compelling. We had comfort and familiarity and I knew he wasn't taking advantage of me and that he really, really wanted to be with me. It was a safe option. Not so romantic like you'd want your first time to be, but it was sweet.

The day was planned ahead of time because we had the day off from school (Christmas break I think) and his mom was at work. His older brother was away at college. House to ourselves. Perfect. I'd been a little obsessed over the particulars for the whole week. I didn't want to bleed on the sheets because his mom would see the stains on them when she did laundry. My genius solution was to have sex in the bathroom. (easy cleanup afterwards) It was a big room and was carpeted, so not as bad as it sounds. I used the excuse of his waterbed being too sloshy and uncomfortable and he bought it. What was he gonna say? No? He would've agreed to anything by then. :)

We started out in his room making out and stripping our clothes from each other and doing a little dry, then wet humping. It was thrilling that his boy parts were touching my girl parts for the first time! Not smart to do, I know, I know........but still. You know that feels good. He must've been watching some decent porn or hearing stories from his brother because nobody else has ever done that to me since without me asking.

We went into the bathroom and laid a towel down and brought the condoms with us. The light was right overhead shining in my face and I asked him to turn it off. That actually made it very nice. It was pitch black in there and the sensory deprivation made me aware of his touch and our sounds so much more. I don't recall that we said much but he kissed me a lot and spent a long time on my neck and breasts before he leaned back to roll the condom on. He  used his hand to guide his cock to me and nudged up a little bit and waited. He leaned down slowly to me and when he finally reached my face for another kiss he was all the way in. It was a very odd sensation. I didn't bleed (which I found out afterwards, so my worries were pointless) and it didn't really hurt. He was holding still asking me if I was okay, and when I let out the breath I was holding I really felt everything. Without the pain to focus on I was taking stock of the unique and bizarre sensation of being stretched and filled. My face was hot and flushed and my blood pressure must have sky rocketed because after that all I heard mostly was my pulse in my ears.

I felt fine and he started to move inside me and after a few thrusts I tested out my own hip action and gave him some returning motion. It was.........not bad. It was intense having that movement inside my body, but otherwise I enjoyed it. The act itself lasted a few minutes maybe and I wish I could remember what his reaction was. Nothing is coming to mind. I don't think he made much noise. Most teenagers probably don't, needing to be discreet when fooling around!

After we laid there and got our breath back, we turned the lights on and cleaned up, went back to his bed and curled up with each other all day until it was time for his mom to be home. Of course we threw our clothes back on, raced downstairs and turned a movie on and acted innocent. When she dropped me off at my house I ran to my room and stayed there for the rest of the day trying to wrap my head around what we'd done. I felt different, but not. I was excited to share my news with my friends, but also wanted to protect the shared secret of intimacy. I waited about a week before I caved and told them. It wasn't a big deal. Nobody was shocked, it wasn't scandalous and thank god I never got the stigma of being a high school slut. We were together on and off (mostly on) for another year before we finally broke up for the last time. We grew up a lot in that year and had some amazing fun together. There's some good stories to tell. ;)

I'll never forget my first and I can say that I'm absolutely glad it was with him.

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Has anyone seen my muse?

I've had a loss of mojo lately. Uh...writing mojo that is. All my other mojo is just fine and dandy - even considering the feverish, stuffy nosed, scratchy throat cold that I have going on. (stupid boys and their cooties. serves me right for kissing him)

I have lots that I want to write about, but the urge to actually sit and write evades me. I've been a bad blogger in general. I need to catch up on reading posts, leaving comments, and replying to comments. I'm still here.......just being lazy.

 I think I have seasonal ADD. I'm still trapped inside (mostly) due to the weather, but there's enough signs outside that keep drawing my attention, making me long for Spring. I heard chirping birds on Friday. Sunshine has been making regular appearances. The daylight is lasting a little longer each day. I can tell. I've been stalking it. Other signs are unavoidable. My dog is a German Shepherd mix and his undercoat is shedding which means he looks like he has the mange. My son likes to pull the clumps out and leave them floating around the house. Fun, right? I'm not sure who I want to kick outside sooner, the boy or the dog!  :)

Od's piercing is healing very nicely and has been put through all the necessary tests. ;) Works just fine and we have no regrets. We've been talking recently about where our adventures are heading and there's some interesting changes on the horizon.......so stay tuned about that.

We've also been laughing a lot lately. Something that I love about us is our ability for humor. It's how we flirt, how we entertain ourselves, how we can judge the status of "us". Just this morning Od did some artful arrangement on his breakfast plate with two blueberry muffins and a strip of turkey bacon. He just left it there, waiting for me to notice. (inside we're both giggling 12 year olds, so it works) I picked up his muffins and rearranged them so less bacon was protruding and said "let's just make it a little more realistic". I love it when he makes me laugh, but I also love to get the last word!  :)

Seems like I had a lot to say for someone without a muse, huh? Anyway, the reason I'm posting is for some fun meme stealing. So here goes :

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought? same thing as everyday when I look at my wild bedhead :  "oh my god"

2. How much cash do you have on you? $120 plus change. unusually large amount for me.

3. What’s a word that rhymes with DOOR? sore

4. Favorite planet? uh...the one I'm on I suppose.

5. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone? Julie

6. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone? timba

7. What shirt are you wearing? grey tank. (same one as yesterday. don't judge. I'm sick.)

8. Do you label yourself? yeah, but I use removeable adhesive.

9. Name the brand of the shoes you’re currently wearing? the barefoot kind

10. Bright or Dark Room? bright. (?) I can always shut my eyes if I need dark. :)

11. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you? I don't know them.

12. What does your watch look like? silver/turquoise bracelet watch, but I never wear it.

13. What were you doing at midnight last night? watching Underworld : Rise of the Lycans

14. What did your last text message you received on your cell say? it was a pic of daughter sent to me by Od that he took at grocery store. she had that spaced out "OMG this is so boring" look that all girls her age seem to wear these days. Just to mess with her I think I'll use it as her new contact photo on my phone.............

15. Where is your nearest 7-11? I have no idea. Next town over maybe? We have a lot of Speedways around here instead.

16. What's a word that you say a lot? My favorite curse is the F-bomb, and it's been pointed out that I sigh a lot. I even use that in my writing quite often. Did I use it in this post yet? Checking...............No! I can't believe it. I'm past due. It's like a little pressure valve. If I didn't sigh I think I'd explode like a pressure cooker.


Oh. I guess that's it. I was all ready for the next question and then - nothing. huh. Okay. I guess we're done for today. I have laundry to do (go figure!) and I'm getting my hair cut. TTFN!

Thursday, March 3, 2011

HNT 3/3 (and a thank you)

I have enough southerner in me to feel the need to apologize for showing so many underthings this week, but something tells me y'all won't mind too much will ya?  ;)  Thought not.

So anyway - today's post is a dedicated "thank you" to someone who helped me out tremendously last week. Sorry, no click-thrus this week, but how about a two-fer? The second shot shows not one, but almost two of my most recent purchases. The first being a bra that does tricks and the second is......well let's just say it's charming!



I hope everyone has an uplifting, happy HNT!



Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Reading signals

Last week we had a bit of a situation in my household. Everytime I went to get dressed or change clothes I was out of something. First jeans, then workout clothes, and finally - comfy underwear. I think every woman knows what I mean here. Yeah sure, there were still options in my drawer, but they all involved something lacy or.....uh, stringy.  I wanted unlacy and unstringy.

I don't know about you, but when laundry levels reach emergency status that's when I threaten to fire the maid. Only problem.........I'm the maid. *sigh*

I pulled one of those "okay, tomorrow I'll get it all washed". (didn't happen)

I caved and wore a thong, decidedly less comfortable, but the additional benefits were worth it! Od couldn't keep his hands out of my pants after he found out I was wearing it. :) I promised myself the next day I'd tackle the chore. (didn't happen)

Another day, another thong. This one was lacy and a bit scratchy - really only meant to be worn temporarily. (if you know what I mean ). Temporary it was. After work he came to greet me in the kitchen with the usual kiss and squeeze. He must've been doing an undie inventory because he swiped his fingers along one cheek, then the other and accused me of not wearing underwear. I replied "yes I am" and his eyes lit up knowing I had on another thong. We spent some private time in the bedroom and the undies were no more. All the other thongs of the week suffered a similar fate. ;)

By the weekend I really was facing the option of going commando or putting off some things to get the laundry done. However, just in time Od declared that he needed some clean clothes and was doing laundry - did I need anything washed? Yes!!!

"Wash my undies, please" I asked him, grateful that I won the wait-it-out game. It's not that I mind washing and drying - it's ALL the baskets that accumulate because nobody likes to fold, iron or put away. Including me.

Well......he did laundry. And he did wash my underwear. He even folded them nicely into a cute little display and left them for me. I have a lot of underwear. A lot. You know what he washed? 4 pairs. His favorites. ALL THONGS.


I wonder what signal he was trying to send me?